Chilli Padi's Big Question

As you all know, my chilli padi has put on weight - she's becoming chubbier....

She popped a question that surprised me.

How would you feel if your six year-old were to say: "I am not good at anything."

The weight gain, the low self esteem statement, the constant asking her not to eat too much.... I didn't work whether all the comments were helpful or harmful.

I have to affirm her that she is good in some many areas, and we love her for who she is, and God loves her for who she is. I commented that she is a good reader and could read well and want to read well. She said, "What I do not know what territory means?" Honestly, I have to wipe my cold sweat. "Territory" to a six year-old? Hmmmmm....

I only knew my ABCs when I was six! I do not know whether there is another perfectionist in the making in my home. So, parenting is always a challenge. I least expect a six year old to tell me that she is not good at anything. It was just too fast. But we will handle it. We will.

Search for FDW

Haiz.... The search is on again.

I can give a list of why I need to search again.

She seems "lost" nowadays.

We prayed very hard to ask God for direction. It seems that the "signs" are everywhere. However, I think if we wanna see signs, we will see it. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy lor.... Therefore, we need someone objective to give a sense of whether we should change. My colleagues ask me how much more i can "tahan" her - esp with her pride, ignoring our directions, excuses and mindlessness.

I do not know. BJ is still asking for kakak. After calling and talking to her, he got more moody. (wrong move)

Just imagine, last night, the whole family was out. We asked her to come down to carry our babies. She went into the lift. Fine. I was rushing to the lift. Lo and Behold, the lift door closed. The lift went up. She didn't tell us that she was going first. Fine. She knew how to operate the lift. These kind of incidents happen a number of times already. I feel like tearing my hair out.
A stranger who sees someone coming toward the lift would have waited. But this was our FDW.

I think I can start a blog on her misdeeds..... But what for? I feel that if things do not work out, we get angry, and she gets equally angry as well. Maybe the best thing to do is to part with her, and go through another cycle of FDW hunting.....